Do you have spiritual advice for a man who is torn between 3 lovers: wife, 1rst love and current girlfriend?

Unfortunately, I am in love with three women and I swear to you I'm not trolling. I am in love with my wife, my ex-girlfriend and my current girlfriend. I'm a 38 year old man of Christian faith and I'm not very proud of myself right now. I feel terrible for doing this to them and they are all amazing women. So, I have to make a choice and I'd appreciate some spiritual advice and opinions. Here's my story:





I met and fell in love with a girl named Karen when we were 16; we attended the same church and our families were great friends. We dated throughout the rest of high school, lost our virginities together, went to the same college etc. We continued to date steadily in college. During my fourth year in college in 1993, I had to spend four months in Europe studying abroad. Karen and I had a big argument before I left for Europe but we didn't exactly break up. While I was in Europe, I met Felicity. Although I've never seen her around, she was also studying abroad and she was attending the same college as Karen and me. Felicity and I started studying together and then dating and then falling in love. Religion was always important to me and Felicity always considered herself Atheist, but my love for her looked past that. She respected my faith and in return I respected her lack of faith. The closer I got to Felicity, the farther apart I got from Karen. When I returned to New York, I told Karen that I fell for someone else so we broke up and it broke her heart. Felicity and I stayed together, finished college, got married in 1998 and had our son Aaron in 2001. My parents had the utmost love for Karen and they were furious with me for breaking her heart, therefore, it took them a very long time to accept Felicity. Felicity and I had a great marriage until last year. Karen and I reunited via Myspace in March 2008 through a mutual friend who attended college with us. She's divorced with two children. Sparks started flying again, we met up in person and I proceeded to have an affair with Karen while married to Felicity. I still love Karen but I had no plans on leaving Felicity. Karen feels no remorse about dating me because she feels as though Felicity ';robbed'; her of what she could have had with me. True. In college, Felicity did tell me to make a choice between her and Karen and I chose Felicity. So, I guess Karen is still bitter after all these years. After two months of reconnecting with Karen, Felicity found out about her. She was hurt and she told me to leave. So, I moved out in May 2008 but we still remained legally married. Although I continued to sleep with Karen, I didn't commit myself to her. In July 2008, I met Claire. She was single, smart, funny, beautiful, 30 years old, no kids etc. Claire is sort of in-between, she's not a regular church goer but she does pray and believe in God. Claire and I have been dating ever since July 2008 and we moved in together two months ago. I'm really in love with this woman. Ever since Felicity and I separated, we would occasionally sleep together and sometimes discuss reconciling. Just like I'm in a relationship with Claire, Felicity has a boyfriend of her own. Now, Felicity is sick of ';playing games'; with me, she told me if I want to give our marriage another chance she will dump her boyfriend Tom and I have to dump Claire. If not, she's staying with Tom, I'm staying with Claire and we're getting a divorce. It's a hard decision.





I'm in love with Felicity, our marriage was wonderful and it was that ONE mistake with Karen that ruined it all. Not to mention, Felicity and I have a son who misses having both his parents together. I love Karen and I always looked back and felt bad about the way I betrayed her in college. So I do feel as though I owe her for that. I'm happy with Claire and I love her so much. I'm sure she knows that I still have feelings for my wife but she has NO idea about Karen. I don't want to keep doing this; I'm sure God is furious with me. Whichever one I choose, the other two will be hurt. What would you do if you were me? Most people would tell me to choose the one I took vows with, but hell, she's not a believer.Do you have spiritual advice for a man who is torn between 3 lovers: wife, 1rst love and current girlfriend?
The only spiritual advice is to tell the truth and repent of your lying, unfaithfulness, and adultery.





Read your own question. Copy it and email it to all three women, because you are lying to and are unfaithful to all of them, and they deserve to be told the truth.





The repercussions to your selfish actions has already caused enough damage, and has created a big mess that will take God to sort out ONCE you repent.





The first wrong thing you did was that you had sex outside of marriage with Karen when you were 16. Had you followed God's principles of sex within marriage, you would have not acted upon your lusts and would have waited until you matured as a man who was ready for marriage.





Because you were not married to Karen, when you left her for Felicity (an Atheist whom you married), you violated another of God's principles in the scriptures:





2 Corinthians 6:14-18





';Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness? And what concord hath Christ with Belial? or what part hath he that believeth with an infidel? And what agreement hath the temple of God with idols? for ye are the temple of the living God; as God hath said, I will dwell in them, and walk in [them]; and I will be their God, and they shall be my people. Wherefore come out from among them, and be ye separate, saith the Lord, and touch not the unclean [thing]; and I will receive you, And will be a Father unto you, and ye shall be my sons and daughters, saith the Lord Almighty.';





Not only did you have sex outside of marriage with Karen, you had sex outside of marriage with Felicity and married her (a declared Atheist). And then you committed adultery with Karen and were unfaithful to Felicity (your wife). And now that you met Claire, a woman who doesn't know your history, you proceeded to commit further adultery with Claire and CONTINUE to be unfaithful to Felicity.





As far as God is concerned, the moment you committed adultery with Karen while married to Felicity (whom you should not have had a relationship to begin with), you became divorced from Felicity, because you violated the covenant of marriage.





Matthew 5:27, 28, 31, 32





';Ye have heard that it was said by them of old time, Thou shalt not commit adultery: But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart. (31) It hath been said, Whosoever shall put away his wife, let him give her a writing of divorcement: But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery.';Do you have spiritual advice for a man who is torn between 3 lovers: wife, 1rst love and current girlfriend?
Honor your covenant bond with your wife and let the other two women go.
I cannot believe I read this whole thing. But I did.





Now I'm going to go kill myself..





Happy now?
Lol troll much?
that's when it's time to hang yourself.
Seriously? You need to become the CEO of some huge company, so you can have enough money so that all three will sweat your nuts.





Why settle for just one, right?
Billy,


You've messed up. Big time. But you know that. The thing is you're susceptible to ';falling in love'; real easy... its new, exciting and the woman is beautiful.


Read C. S Lewis' essay ';Do We Have A Right To Happiness?';


Get yourself straightened out and ';go and sin no more';. God still loves you.
I think you're asking the wrong question. You should be asking yourself ';why am I still behaving like I'm in the seventh grade at the age of 38?';





Seriously, you are acting out of pure self interest, and none of these women should choose to be with you. That poor kid, having all this confusion brought into his life. That's who you should be devoting yourself to - not these three women, not Jesus, but your kid.
Are you a 3 year old? Grow up!





I can't believe you had the nerve to put this out there, if you are really serious.





If this is for real, then you deserve NONE of them. What a loser.
I think I'll forgo tuning in for next week's episode, if that's okay with you.....