I'm falling for this girl to fast!!!? Spiritual Advice?

I'm falling for this girl to fast!!!?


So I’m twenty years old I’m an attractive guy but I’ve never had a girlfriend because I was waiting for the right one. Now I’ve meet this girl at my church she’s really pretty and nice and decent and religious. I’m religious myself, she’s very sweet she volunteers most of her time to charities and stuff. My mom is friends with her mom, and in some instances her daughter has asked my mom about me. My mom told me she might be interested in me, because she asks about a lot and she gets happy when she talks about me, my sister has also told me this, because she always brings my name into their conversations like “How’s your brother”, “What’s he up to”? and stuff. Since I’ve never had a girlfriend and I want to start a relationship with this girl, I’m starting to imagine us getting married (I’m twenty) and starting a family, finishing college etc. I think she would make the perfect spouse and mother for my future kids. I know most guys shouldn’t think like this but since she is my first real love interest I’m feeling for her fast. I don’t want to sound to clingy or desperate, so how can I get her to date me? I went to her home recently and asked her if she wanted to go out to a family party and she said she had an event that day for church and that she really wanted to go, so I told her that was fine, just to let me know when she was ready. I’ve texted her twice today. The first “It’s a shame we couldn’t hang out this week, let me know when you’re available” the second “here’s a bible verse, I think you will like it” (she’s religious) So my question is am I being to clingy or desperate,? The second how can I get her to date me and keep the romance going?I'm falling for this girl to fast!!!? Spiritual Advice?
you may be 20 but you have the mind of a13 year old girlI'm falling for this girl to fast!!!? Spiritual Advice?
*awakes from unconsciousness after being hit by a brick*





Man, you should seriously learn about both paragraphs and summarizing skills. What a brick of text you've posted.





Proximity is the killer, as well as a certain cockiness and being somewhat seductive and playful. Join some of the activities she does.


Avoid texting Bible verses.
If she makes you a better person by all means go out with her. Just be careful with all the zeal because you are 20-years-old and it is not the best time IMO to settle down and marry someone.
singles and dating is more appropriate.
You do realise you sound like a teenage girl with a crush, right?
wow if you guys break up you are going to cry for years....pathetic dude.





You need to try to play it cool. Understand that things may not work out the way you want so you will be prepared for anything. Just try asking her out....


If the romance is there it will keep going regardless...
your not being clingy- its natural to feel this way. just be yourself- you need to make the first move, men have to. be bold about it otherwise she will not be interested. her talking to you is showing she likes. ask her out to coffe one afternoon. i am 20 and my boy friend is 21 and he asked me to coffee- it was really flattering. try it- i promise she will at least smile. dont say a day though- let her choose. if you need any more help then just ask me- k. i would be really glad to help.
Ok, you sound excited and its cute how much you like her. But you really need to slow WAY down. She might not be ready for marriage. I'd aim for just a date, first. Go from there.





Just out of curiosity, what was the bible verse? Be careful which ones you send. some are probably not quite appropriate for your relationship. keep it purely thoughtful at this point.





Start by offering to take her to a church function you're both going to. Its always nice to have someone offer a ride. You could also volunteer at the same places she does. That shows you have the same values as her, and you love helping people, which is always an admirable quality. Try to arrange a group date/ hang out thing with some friends. You'll kind of see what dating her would be like, and if it turns out to be a bad idea, no harm done. You're just friends.





If those kinds of things seem to go well, ask her out on a legit date. If she says she's busy, suggest another time. If she's busy again, wait for her to tell you when she's free. If she wants to, she will let you know! Be patient! If the date goes well, take her out again, but don't go out obsessively. Be casual. Let her know you like her by how you treat her. Be a gentleman.





If you to are supposed to be together, things will go naturally.





Just remember, slow WAY, WAY down, and be nice. Try not to be obsessive.





Good luck!
David, I know we disagree often (on that whole FREE GIFT thing you post).





But really take my advice here. If you want this girl, find a way to spend time with her in a non-date setting. Either working at the same place... something like that. Proximity is the killer.