Need some good spiritual advice,please.?

My daughter is married to a man that is very controlling and has many problems. Not wanting to work. Anger issues. Won't keep a satisfactory roof over her head. A constant liar.





My husband and I don't understand why she would stay in this. They have a 3 month old son that we worry about. We don't even want to see him, as he as threatened me, and her two sisters with violence. Now my daughter won't let me see my grandchildren, since we have said that we feel we shouldn't be around him.


We are only trying to not have anymore conflict with this man.





What should we do? We are trying to give a Christian outlook to this.Need some good spiritual advice,please.?
I just read your blog and It was terrific and God bless you Sister , These type of guys are usually cowards on the inside and the best that I can say to you is pray that you can somehow get him into a church that has the Laying on of hands by a mighty man of God ,It might get ugly for while but he can be set free from this ,Jesus talked about certain things only happen by prayer and fasting and this may be one of them , Sometimes we have to wash are Hands of some people and that is hard to do but when we stand back and trust God thats when he starts to move in peoples lifes ,God Bless you and Stand on the Blood Of Christ for his deliveranceNeed some good spiritual advice,please.?
Is your daughter also a christian? If she is, then she should just trust God. As long as we trust Him, and don't give up, he'll never leave us and will always be in our corner. If the guy is not working, then I'm sure your daughter will eventually get tired of it and handle it the correct way.
Your daughter has made a decision and you must live with it. I know it must hurt you and your husband because of your grandchildren and the fact that your daughter is doing this. All you can do is wait it out and see what happens. Prayer is a powerful thing. That is your best option now.
This is a tough one. Unless laws are broken and authorities can get involved--I think the best answer would come from being on your knees before God. We Christians responding to this question will pray right now as well. God bless...
She may be staying because she is afraid of what would happen if she tried to leave. It is quite common in abusive relationships.





Unfortunately, there isn't much you can do unless a crime is committed against your daughter or the baby. It's sad that she won't let you see the baby. I hope you recognize this as her rather immature attempt to manipulate you.





Prayer has been known to bring peace to such situations. You may also wish to consult your clergy for support.





My husband's sister was in a similar situation for many years. She finally wised up and divorced him but is currently involved with a new man who is just as controlling, although at least he doesn't beat her up like the first guy did. At family gatherings, I practice the time-honored tradition of shunning the undesirable man. It's easy enough to keep busy talking with other family members or playing with the children.


Hope this helps.
even JESUS hung around with sinners, in hopes to win them over to GOD. True christians, try to help people, that includes your son-n-law. Maybe you are the only christian influence the man has in his life? sounds like satan has his grubs on him, fight the demons, love the man....WHAT WOULD JESUS DO? GOD dont love you any more than he loves him...think about it.


you cant force him to give his life to GOD, HOWEVER,your christian influences, and heart-felt prayers will do good for all of you. invite him to church, apologise to him for any bad feelings,( even though he may have started it) build a relationship with your son, YES,----YOUR SON, THEN LET HIM KNOW YOUR CONCERNS FOR HIS BEHAVIOR, AND YOUR DAUGHTER.


ALSO, THIS IS THE MAN YOUR LITTLE GIRL FELL IN LOVE WITH, APPEARANTLY SHE SEES SOME GOOD IN HIM. dont make her choose,--you might not like the outcome. GOD is all for marriages, even yours. Jesus left the 99 sheep to go after the one that went astray, all families have non-christians in it, HELP THIS MAN FIND GOD, AND SET HIM FREE FROM HIS DEMONS WITHIN------THEN HE WILL CHOOSE TO BEHAVE MORE CHRISTIANLY TWARDS HIS WIFE......PLEASE DONT CONDEM ANYONE TO HELL , WITHOUT FIGHTING FOR HIM FIRST. I am not justifieng his behaviors, I once was a daughter, married to a man worse than this one. The marriage ended after 20 years, however, I became a TRUE CHRISTIAN THIS YEAR, and if it wasnt for someone filling in the gap between me and CHRIST, who knows where I WOULD BE RIGHT NOW.


just think about what type of christian you are, and what you should do, so many people that claim to be christians, fall through the gaps themselves, because they dont know how to fix things...or are not willing to fight for someone elses soul..... Jesus died on the cross for him too! JESUS GAVE HIS LIFE FOR US ALL, SO THAT WE MIGHT HAVE A CHANCE FOR SALVATION..........HELP PEOPLE FIND THAT CHANCE.......i am praying for you and yours, prayer works,...I know it does.....find your Faith, and put it to action, because faith without works is dead faith.....GOD bless.
Your son-in-law sounds like he has a personality disorder...probably something in cluster B. Look up ';anti-social disorder'; and ';explosive personality disorder';. You'll probably see a lot of familiar things there.


After you read that, ask yourself why your daughter would stay with someone like that....then go from there.
In order to be able to see your grandchildren and to make sure that they are well and being treated right you must make peace, and unfortunately grin and bare the son in law. Have you offered your daughter to come back home if she needs to? Show her that your door as well as your heart is always open. Privately express to her your concerns without sounding like your angry, but letting her know that she and the grandchild are welcomed always. If the son in law has expressed violence then that is a major concern and some authority should be contacted. In the event your daughter comes home to you, contact the proper authorities that her husband has expressed violence and that you are afraid for your safety as well as your daughters and grandchild's. Keep praying and I will too.
In situations like this, I've heard it said ';well, the least we can do is pray.';


That is wrong. The MOST you can do is pray.
Is there addition involved in any party? Avalon might be a good idea.
What should we do? We are trying to give a Christian outlook to this.


A Christian outlook? This may be hard to swallow but you said it in the first line.


';My daughter is married to a man that is very controlling and has many problems';


Ok so you you want a Christian perspective then here it is. Look at it in GOD's eyes. He is your son. He has some problems but there is hope. If it was your daughter that had the problems I am sure you would think differently about it. This does not make it right but you asked for a Christian outlook.
stay out of it. your daughter will learn and leave him eventually. if you interfere now you risk losing her and your grandson.
Seek professional help, and be aware of signs of physical abuse to your daughter, and grandson. If you see any physical signs at all turn his butt in fast, it will piss him off and probably your daughter too, but it might very well save there lives.
Try to keep in contact with her. Be a friend to her.As a friend all you can do is be loving and suggest for the best. Usually the more the parents try to push two people ';in love'; apart,the closer the kids get.
Of coarse pray.





One thing that came to my mind. Does your son in law have anybody that he respects? Maybe a uncle or grandmother that can talk some sense to him and he would listen too.





The other thought you are not going to like. That is tough love. Let them both do their thing without any of your involvement, no matter what. Ever read about the Prodical Son?





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It sounds like he is abusive but there is nothing you can do but wait til she's had enough and then be supportive of her. If you are conserned about the baby turn them in to their local welfare dept.