This is a 2 part question for us Christians. Can you help me I need spiritual advice.?

I've been dating this girl 26 years old for the past 7 1/2 years. It's been really rocky. We've had our ups and downs, but the last 2 years we were blessed to have 2 beautiful baby girls. Ok so the plot thickens. I'm 36 years old. There were times she would ask me to go to church with her, now I was struggling with dedicating myself to a specific church but I always prayed and asked Our Lord for guidance and patience with our relationship. We lived in Sin being not married. Last summer she decided to pick up and leave me, she took my took girls and is living with at her sisters house. Now here's where it gets interesting, around the time of the break up she told me that she felt I pulled her away from Our Lord. This was crushing for me to hear. I at this time started to go to a church that she introduce me to.


1st Question: Is it possible for another person to pull you away from our Lord? Or is that an excuse to pursue a worldly life?





Now, fastforwarded to November, we get in gauged, we go to church together. Everything is going fine right? Well, just last weekend she decides to go to a baby shower alone from 8pm - 3am the next day. When she got back home she saw nothing wrong with this. Mind you we were staying at her mothers house that weekend. Now, for the record I did tell her that I was not feeling well and wanted to catch up on some rest that weekend. Nevertheless she go's out to the baby shower. The next day she wonders what's wrong with me because I'm quite, well for starters I'm not feeling to well and secondly I'm dissappointed at her coming home so late the night before. But I chose not touch on the second issue because we are currently at her mothers house.





I decided to leave around 6pm from her mothers house, she approached me and said what's wrong with me? I replied nothing we'll talk later. She said no we'll talk now. When I brought up the subject about her coming home late, she replied ';you know what I'm not going to let you interfere with my state of mind.'; Meaning her faith. I asked her what does her state of mind have to do with anything? She replied just go.


2 Question: Is there something wrong with this picture? Can someone just flat out throw thier faith out there like a weapon or shield in defense for their actions? Do you know what I mean?This is a 2 part question for us Christians. Can you help me I need spiritual advice.?
First, we are each responsible for our own actions, and for our own relationships with our Lord.


Second, what is the big deal with how late she stayed out? I mean, she is a big girl, sounds like to me. Perhaps she needed that time out, and away from the kids, you, etc.





Sounds like #1, the two of you need to consider the children involved, for THEY should be the first consideration, and #2, YOU need to grow up, step up, and be the man that she will look up to.This is a 2 part question for us Christians. Can you help me I need spiritual advice.?
I like you're question.
I know exacly what you mean. It is not okay to do that at all! I don't know why she did that.
I agree with Ester but have to ask about a 7 1/2 year relationship that is going nowhere fast: what is your hurry?





Personally, you have no right to wonder what she is doing at 3:00 a.m. on any given day, you are not married to her, and she only owes you an explanation out of courtesy---I am wondering how many times you have been out with the boy's until 4 a.m. myself


Truthfully, if you cannot or are unwilling to marry her after 3 years-you both should have said goodbye and gone on with your lives--it is to short to live with someone you don not want to spend the rest of your life with.
Wait a minute. You have two children out of wedlock and this girl said you are pulling her away from the Lord?





You need to get your feet on a righteous path with Jesus. Talk to a pastor about your mixed up priorities and get them straight!
The answer to these questions can get a little complicated ... but, I will try... and yes I do know what you are getting at and saying... The Bible does make it clear that one person can become a stumbling block for another, and that in itself is WRONG, but, the person that is falling in faith, must learn or seek God even more.... *Sigh*, boy this is hard to type up !! Many people have and use excuses, we all do it everyday ... Normal HUMAN response to disappointment and wanting the *better* life and freedom to live as we choose.... and she is YOUNG ..... I am sure there is more to this than meets the eyes.... I can not go into it all much on here... I refuse to burden you in front of a thousand people.... so IF you feel the need to contact me, so we can go in depth on this... Please feel free to do so...... see my profile to find out more about me..... then choose..... go in peace... God bless
An interesting situation.Do you personally have any problem with showing commitment to God, or are you just wary of the churches you are in. I can sympathize with the latter. Also, are you suspicious of her cheating on you?


By the way, it was good of you to admit that what you were doing was a sin. It's not right to have sex before marriage-despite what the world says-,and it's REALLY not right to have kids outside of wedlock, but you are making the right move by getting married.Be a man and take responsibility. Let's hope this woman is faithful.
Definatly got the trailer infront of the truck on this one.





Question 1. No, no one can pull you away, they can only entice you away





Question 2. Man you chose this woman to have your babies and you didn't even marry her. With that kind of treatment, what do you expect from her?