I need spiritual advice about a decision?

I'm in love with my fiance (of course), but we have been having some issues lately. He has a daugther, and i love her like she's my own. The issue is, he still wants to be there for the mother and i don't believe thats a good idea. He's basicly telling me that if i want to be with him i have to accept their friendship (as far as him ministering to her and etc or so he SAYS) and in the beginning we agreed no friends at because we both have this same insecurity. I have been telling him my thoughts on marriage on a godly foundation, but it can go both ways. What i mean by this is, is he selfish because he dosen't what to foresake her for my happiness and security? Or am i selfish for not accepting this crazy choice? I love him, am in love with him, i have submitted to just about everything he has asked me to. I have sacrificed ALOT for him, but I don't believe God showed me who I am to ignore this huge red flag in my face. I'm torn between letting him go and ending a god provided enguagement so he can be free to do as he pleases with her, or standing by him and trusting him. I don't know what to do.Can anyone help me?I need spiritual advice about a decision?
Put yourself in her shoes. How would you feel if the father of your children wanted nothing to do with you because of another woman? It is good for the daughter if her parents remain on good terms, even though they are divorced. She might grow to resent you if you keep her parents from speaking.I need spiritual advice about a decision?
It is no good without trust. He and the ex must be civil for the sake of the child. You can also be civil to the ex and it will make everything easier. Trust until you have evidence not to. Peace and Blessings...
Maybe he just wants to care for the mother of his child? Since I don't know the guy I can't say if he's cheating on you or anything. But I think it's just him caring for his childs mother.
christians love 2 blindly obey- they do not have the mental capability for fee-will





They live dreadful lives of Poverty, Chastity, Obedience, and Silence
to me yes imo cuz YOU shld be first...whats his birthday and yours?? alot can be told from that about compatibility. He thinks he has you and he can walk on you. That stinks...if he wont compromise now how will he ever??...ive been married twice so think carefully...My first husband was a horrible chauvanist...ick


REMIND HIM OF THE VOWS FORSAKING ALL OTHERS...
She's the mother of his child. Unless he has full custody he will need to see her. Unless you can accept this, and trust your fiance then your union will break.
He loves the mother of his child and wants her friendship. He sounds like a committed person who should be well respected. You've got a man with a good heart.
Is this man a divorcee?


If so, you are playing with fire and if you are a Christian you will certainly meet trouble.
NO FRIENDS?





that's the mother of his daughter, first and foremost...you both need to get over your insecurities.





otherwise, I give you about 18 months
See this is why the Bible says ';each wife should have her own husband...';
well ur asking him to make a choice not a good move ur just gonna have to accept it and deal with ur insecurities and all that ain't it a ***** when life gets in the way nothing's ever perfect i'm assuming he's only interested in the child not her if that's the case then i'm afraid ur the one causing the problem' and remember things change it's ok making promises when u don't know what the future holds it's a tad immature to think like that the choice is up to u as ur gonna have to live with it not me
I think he should cut her loose. Wasn't he married to her already and that didn't work out?





Be very cautious about matrimony; when faith and beliefs are a big marriage issue, the union is likely doomed. This is a statistical fact. To work out successfully a marriage must be based on a rational, honest and reality based foundation, not on spiritual beliefs -- or it just won't last... Are you two really compatible with the very important marriage issues of money, lifestyle, family, entertainment, compatibility, etc.?
Was he married or engaged to this other girl? If so I would back off. They do have a child together and it is essential that both parents be there for the childs sake.





In any relationship and in general trust is essential. If someone has a mature relationship and they talk about their daughter most of the time then its a good thing. If someone is flirting or going out to lunch constantly, etc. without you I would be concerned.





I dont know much about your WHOLE story so please take my advice with a grain of salt.